My thoughts on the painful decision to just let someone go
Letting go can be the toughest thing one ever has to do. It isn’t always optional, sometimes it’s forced upon you and sometimes it’s just the best thing to do at the time. What’s important though, is that you see why it had to be done and move forward from there.
Family members, partners, friends and more, what we have to accept is that, sadly, they come and unfortunately yet sometimes inevitably go. Transient friendships are something all too common and the demise of one can hurt. They sort of explode or implode if you know what I mean. One blames the other, the other blames one. One hurts, one may not hurt but either way it ends. Sometimes there isn’t even a reason. The relationship just dwindles away until one day you wake up and realise the person no longer exists in your life.
When it hurts the most though, it’s just best to be done with it. The infamous ‘They’ say that any relationship that doesn’t incur pain isn’t worth it but is any relationship that continues to incur pain really worth it?
The best way to do it, is to cut that part of your life out completely or patch up that part of your life as best as you can without that part of the puzzle and move forward. As much as it may hurt, it gets easier. Gets easier and then it gets better. Gets better and then one day you wake up and do you know what you realise? Nothing. Absolutely nothing because that day you wake up, it’s OK. Deep down it may not and may never be forgotten but when you don’t think about it any more, you’ve truly let go.
Yes, letting go is hard and you’ll never know what life would have been like had that family member, friend, partner or whatever it may be had still been around. The memories of how it used to be will always be there but if you’re OK, just trust that it was meant to be this way. Live with the good memories and know that they were once happy times.
If you let something go and it is able to and does come back, then maybe it was meant to be. But remember it went away the first time and could easily do the same again. If you choose to let it back in, be sure to live on the premise that you were just fine the first time you had to let go.